The fear of being alone or disliked is something that many of us with anxiety worry about. And we constantly worry about annoying our friends who we turn to when times are tough because we don’t want them to get fed up with us and leave us alone. Yes, it is annoying when we need help or a shoulder to cry on all the time, but sometimes we just need to get through that moment and surpass the pain we are currently feeling.
I learned recently that the easiest way to get through an issue without worrying about a friend getting mad at you is to tell them. Tell them that you understand that you are hard to deal with at times but you just need them to tell you that they are not going anywhere. Tell them that you need to hear it every once in a while because it will help to control your emotions and get through with your day. Yes it seems a bit demanding of them, but to have them tell you when you’re getting annoying is enough to keep you on the right path in your thoughts. And telling them what you need will help you feel better as well for you have expressed what is bothering you and got it off your chest, which is a much needed thing every once in a while.
It’s okay to feel like you’re being annoying and demanding at times, it’s not always your fault and you need to be surrounded by supportive people who make you feel good about yourself. Remember that you’re not in this world to please others, but rather to be happy and explore the gift of life that you have been given. It’s not always easy and sometimes you need to take care of yourself before you can be understanding for others.